He is your fiance. Be honest and just tell him the truth. I remember a similar situation with one of my patients. When she finally got the nerve to tell him, he was relieved. He had contracted herpes himself years before and was afraid to tell her
Not all people who get exposed to herpes will get it. You are on suppression medications for herpes, I assume, so the chance of an subsequent outbreak is less-likely but still possible. Obviously, if you know you are having signs of an outbreak, you should avoid sex at that time. Some studies have shown that it is possible to transmit this virus to another person even if you to not have active lesions, but this is less-likely as well. This is the risk that both of you will need to take.
If both of you had sexual partners in the past, you may have been equally as exposed to the potential of getting an sexually-transmitted disease. You may have been the unlucky one, but honesty will go a long, long way in your new relationship if you just tell him.
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