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If sex is painful, will avoiding sex cause it to hurt less?

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Many women believe that avoiding intercourse and giving their vagina a “rest” is the best antidote to painful sex. Experts say the exact opposite is true. “There is some measure of truth to the axiom that if you don’t use it, you lose it,” says women’s health expert Christiane Northrup, MD. Northrup is the author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom. Stop having sex, she says, and resuming it may be that much harder — both physically and in terms of desire.

At the same time, she says, pain with intercourse is not normal. It often occurs when your partner simply isn’t arousing you enough. In other instances, hormonally driven vaginal dryness — like the vaginal dryness some women feel when nursing a baby or going through menopause — can also cause sexual discomfort. A little dollop of a lubricating product or an estrogen cream applied directly to the vagina, Northrup says, is all you need to eliminate discomfort from painful intercourse related to hormones.

If arousal is the problem, Northrup says talk to your partner about increasing foreplay. Then do whatever it takes to get you through the excitement phase and make your body ready for intercourse.

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Hi Ok first sex has to be enjoyable, and the enjoyment is a two way thing, if its hurting then stop and see just were your going wrong.

If its hurting stopping for a couple of weeks or longer will only make things worst in the long run, meaning that you will shy away from it even more, people say just putting oil or cream on it will do the trick, there's more to it than that, when your making love/having sex, lots of foreplay really is a big need, you or your husband should not be looking for wham bam thank you mam, it really needs to go far deeper than that.

Laying off sex will reduce the size of your vagina, not total shrinkage, but it will get smaller, making sex even harder for you both.

If foreplay is not getting you both there in bringing your natural juices out, then that's the time to bring in sex oils, I think oils is the best way to go.

Or you could try putting your self on vitamin B6, its said to do wonders for keeping the female juices running for most of the cycle.

Do hope this helps.

Good Luck

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Coconut oil :-)  moisture of the gods!  touch each other all day, show affection with touching, cuddle lots and lots, give each other coconut oil loving rub downs and where it counts.  eye contact. smile across rooms.  act like you like each other.  remember to acknowledge another, respect one another, and get your own acknowledgment, respect, fun and freedom fulfilled so you overflow when with your lover!  and Coconut oil is natures lubricant.

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it will get worse if you stop having sex....i know exactly what it is and its awful!!! as we age we loose our estrogen we can use creams with an estrogen in it but the side effects are pretty bad. i no longer have sex ( not by choice)  my partner has ED and will not get help for it. so , i am  celebrate and i hate it!!! when we were having sex it was a lot better, if you  don't use it you will loose it!!!

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